When plans fall apart

Greetings from Westbury in Shropshire!

What do you do when plans fall through? Do you get angry and bitter, or do you accept the fact and lay other plans?

The plan for the first week in the UK was to spend 2 days in Liverpool and attend a concert. On Monday the concert got cancelled, so we decided to drop Liverpool as well. We as a group hardly had to discuss that choice.

From my clients’ seminars I picked up this question: What is right about this I’m not getting?

It’s helpful to ask when things don’t go your way. 

You might not come up with an answer, but it will put you on the way to discovering that you have alternatives. Whatever didn’t happen did maybe so for a reason, or at least you can lay other plans that fit you as well or even better.

We swapped a noisy busy city and a concert packed with people for quiet rural life.

Westbury is a tiny sleepy village nestled between Shrewsbury and the Welsh border.

Going for a walk along the fields grants you views of hills and sheep, a few cows and a horse here and there. Birds are singing, the sheep are bleating and the wind is blowing through the trees.

We have been on trips to Oswestry (not much to see) and Shrewsbury, which is the birth town of Charles Darwin.

Here we wandered along the river Severn, over blooming meadows along narrow paths.

There were people in canoes on the river, and cows standing in your way. The sun was shining, the sky dotted with fluffy clouds. Pure idyllic and what you hope to see when you visit England.

I’m not sad we did not visit Liverpool, or see the concert. 

We engaged in activities that suited my need for quiet way more. 

Long walks, good conversations, great home-made food. A movie in the evening, and early to bed. Quiet mornings with heaps of coffee.

On Friday we will move on to Anglesey, an island in Wales. Looking forward to more quiet days at the sea.

xo, Yvonne

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